THE NOT SO GREAT GASBY
Happy Valentines Day! I have a challenge for you. Take one day out of your week to disconnect from social media and the news. It sounds difficult but trust me, it will give you a better perspective on things in your life. Love yourself enough to let loose of the social media loop.
Well I signed off last week and when I logged back on the sh*t hit the fan. I tuned into a few of my favorite youtubers and bloggers to see what I missed and this one’s a doozy. So grab a snack, cup of coffee, or a glass of wine.
If you’re a person of color you’ve heard the name B Smith. B Smith was born in my hometown of Pittsburgh PA. She is a model, author, restaurateur, television host, and what most would consider the black Martha Stewart of our time.
Unfortunately B. Smith has been diagnosed with Alzheimer, something hard for the person battling this disease and the family who has to come to grips with the fact that their loved one will one day not remember who they are.
Well B Smith’s husband of over 20 years has a girlfriend! Yes, I said a girlfriend, and you can’t fault him ….If that’s his wife’s wishes! If I was diagnosed with a debilitating disease, the selfless thing to do is to convey to your spouse that you want them to continue to live their life and find someone who can love them the way they need to be loved. BUUUUT, what does Mr. Gasby do? He has his girlfriend help take care of his sick wife. Take a look at this video by the Washington Post.
Are we stuck in the matrix? The delusion runs deep. What happened to “through sickness or health”, or if you so choose get B Smith the help that she needs while giving her the respect of dating outside of her presence. I have worked around Dementia and Alzheimer patients and they do have moments of clarity where they know who you are, etc.. I can’t imagine a scenario where B Smith has a break, the emotional torture that it can do to a person! Now check out this video by Chronicle Speaks!
Being that she is considered unfit to take care of herself, she is at the Mercy of her husband and stepdaughter! How do we truly know what her wishes as she suffers in silence? Tell me what you think of this cocktail of confusion! Do you think that they are truly happy with this arrangement? Would you be ok with your significant other having a girlfriend/boyfriend when you are dealing with a illness, or should they be steadfast in holding up their vows? Is this love or do you think that Mr. Gasby is taking advantage of his wife while having his cake and eating it to?
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